Responding to women’s sarcasm

sarcasm-funny-quotesOf course we can all be sarcastic when we want to be, but this method of insult can be a favorite tactic by some females because of its indirect approach.

Take this example:

M: ‘We have had our ups and downs of course but I have been married to the same woman for fifteen years now.’

F: ‘She is a very lucky woman.’ (Spoken in a derogatory tone of irony, her eyes raised to the ceiling).

Notice what happens with this kind of exchange – the words themselves are positive – but the words are spoken with an insulting, derogatory, demeaning edge because of the tone of voice and facial expression being used when saying them – hence the indirect quality.

The simple way to deal with this sort of sarcastic/demeaning/insulting comment is to ignore the tone of voice and facial expressions being used and thus take the comment in the opposite way from which it was meant – you take the words at face value – as a compliment. The exchange then proceeds like this:

M: ‘We have had our ups and downs of course but I have been married to the same woman for fifteen years now.’

F: ‘She is a very lucky woman.’ (Spoken in a derogatory tone of irony, her eyes raised to the ceiling).

M: ‘Oh she is!’ (said with a smug smile).

This response can further be enhanced if you so wish:

M: ‘Oh she is! I tell her how lucky she is every day!’

So here is the principle for dealing with this kind of put down:

a) Ignore the tone of voice and facial expressions, and

b) Take the words at face value as if they are a compliment.

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About Robert Laynton

Robert Laynton has a B.Sc.(Hons.) degree in psychology and was a member of the British Psychological Society, becoming a member of their Transpersonal Psychology Division and a contributor to their Journal, 'The Transpersonal Review'. He also gained a Post Graduate Certificate and Diploma in counselling. He suffers from Bipolar Affective Disorder. He likes photography, walking, listening to jazz, reading American Crime Fiction from the 40's, 50's and 60's and enjoys watching older films, especially film noir. He lives in England.
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