Always doing as you are told?


Do you sometimes feel as though you are at her beck and call? ‘Do this, pass me that, go and do the other’? Here is a little power play that you can try.

If she asks you to hand her something – anything – a spoon, a cup, a newspaper – anything, something she wants or something that she has dropped on the floor, such that you have to take a few steps towards her to give her the requested item, then, if at that moment you feel that you are becoming her slave/errand boy and that she is taking advantage of your good nature, you can hold out your hand with the item that she wants, take half a step back, and make her come and take it out of your hand.

If this is a lighthearted situation, then you can have a wry smile on your face. If she is trying a power play on you and trying to dominate you, then you keep a very straight face – no smiles or sense of humor. Once she steps forward to take the item from your hand, you are ‘one up’ and if you are not one up, then you are ‘one down’.

She may of course play the ‘chivalry/gentleman’ card by saying that a ‘gentleman’ would walk over and give her the item she wants and that this would be the ‘chivalrous’ thing to do. In this case you can remind her that she has to earn chivalrous gestures by being a ‘good girl’ and that you do not and never have claimed to be a ‘gentleman’.

Want to see it in action? Here it is




About Robert Laynton

Robert Laynton likes photography, walking, jazz, reading American Crime Fiction from the 40's, 50's and 60's and vintage comics. He enjoys watching classic films, especially film noir. He lives in England.
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