Inquire Within (1) Should I pay for the meal?

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Recent ‘Agony Aunt’ question from ‘Suzie’: ‘On his first date with me, my boyfriend insisted that I pay half towards the meal that we had. Should I go out on a second date with him?’

WHAT!!??!

Listen love, this is 2016 not 1916!

Listen you males out there, since at least the middle of the twentieth century, females have been banging on about equality – equal rights, equal pay, equal representation blah blah blah. Even as I write this post, the British Government is introducing a law that will compel business who have over a certain number of employees to disclose pay differentials between males and females with the aim of establishing equal pay for men and women who do the same job. Quite right! At least in sentiment – men and women doing the same job for the same number of hours should receive the same wage.

Females have been fighting for equality for many years – now – who are we males to take such equality from them?

Equality means same wage for the same job carried out for the same amount of time.

Equality means going ‘dutch’ regarding a meal you have together – you pay half each.

Females have fought hard for equality and they should have it – and that means paying half towards the meal. Why on earth in the twenty first century is she expecting the male to pay? Is she a charity case? Is she in some sort of deluded ‘little princess’ syndrome? Does her self-worth depend upon how much you shell out for gifts and treats? If she is expecting you to pay for everything on the first date and you fall into the trap – then you could be setting yourself up for a very expensive relationship. Remember! Her self-worth does not depend upon how much you pay or on what gifts you buy. She is not a ‘princess’. She has equal status when it comes to paying for meals.

Of course you are free to willingly choose to pay for a meal or buy her gifts – but she has to earn such gestures by being a ‘good girl’. When you do buy her such gifts, you can of course remind her that you always get paid – and you decide the payment – not her. For more on this, check the post on ‘Chivalry’ HERE.

 

 

 

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About Robert Laynton

Robert Laynton has a B.Sc.(Hons.) degree in psychology and was a member of the British Psychological Society, becoming a member of their Transpersonal Psychology Division and a contributor to their Journal, 'The Transpersonal Review'. He also gained a Post Graduate Certificate and Diploma in counselling. He suffers from Bipolar Affective Disorder. He likes photography, walking, listening to jazz, reading American Crime Fiction from the 40's, 50's and 60's and enjoys watching older films, especially film noir. He lives in England.
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